So there was a fish swimming along in life one day and suddenly he hit a wall...He yelped, "Dam."
One of the greatest skills for a happy life is finding the humor and irony in the situations we find ourselves in. It is easier to take life in stride when we find a way to laugh and smile at the things we encounter. Keeping life in perspective and finding humor makes life a lot more enjoyable and the people around you end up laughing too.
This is expecially true in a relationship. Since opposites attract, what you find in your spouses behavior that is so wonderful initially, after time, you may realize that it makes you whole because it is exactly where you have your weakest spots. If you are an introvert, the spouse is an extrovert...what you love about the expressions and energy of life, can in time, highlight where you weakest in an area of life. Keeping a healthy respect for how your mate makes you whole with the thier strengths while you understand they are your weaknesses...AND BEING ABLE TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF or the SITUATION and not take it personal, will keep your marriage fresh and energetic! It will also allow you to focus on how the person makes you whole and complete instead of how they are not more like you.
So, next time you find yourself in a situation that could be challenging, remember to smile, see the irony of the situation, and be sure to laugh out loud for the irony of the situation! Repsect the differences and don't take things too seriously!
9/17/10
Brick by brick
Daily Double…
A true life story…
Once there was a gentleman from India who came to the Unites States in 1972. He received a green card and started to work very hard. In 1974, he went back to India to bring back his bride and start a new life together. H started a family and has two great children. In the meantime, he took the American entrepreneurial spirit to heart and while working full time went back to college full time to gain a degree in Computer Science and Business management. After he had been working for a while doing very well he was laid off from a very large national firm and could not find work. He hunted and hunted and finally found a great job in Washington, DC. The problem was that his wife and kids loved Raleigh, NC. So, he now commutes back and forth between Raleigh and DC, with a job he loves, a family he loves, and a wife who also works hard. She helped to raise the kids by herself, while working full time, and stayed active in the local Indian community. This mans children are now a doctor and a lawyer, I wonder why?
Just another story of greatness, lying within the depths of what this great country has to offer.
Grab your dreams and goals! Stay open to the opportunities that you create for yourself. If you are looking for something from the government you already have it…the ability to work hard and create a life you choose too, not one that is handed to you. That is the difference between the government/labor union workers and the independent thinkers and entrepreneurs who really drive this country forward!
BUILD YOUR DREAMS TODAY! (brick by brick!)
A true life story…
Once there was a gentleman from India who came to the Unites States in 1972. He received a green card and started to work very hard. In 1974, he went back to India to bring back his bride and start a new life together. H started a family and has two great children. In the meantime, he took the American entrepreneurial spirit to heart and while working full time went back to college full time to gain a degree in Computer Science and Business management. After he had been working for a while doing very well he was laid off from a very large national firm and could not find work. He hunted and hunted and finally found a great job in Washington, DC. The problem was that his wife and kids loved Raleigh, NC. So, he now commutes back and forth between Raleigh and DC, with a job he loves, a family he loves, and a wife who also works hard. She helped to raise the kids by herself, while working full time, and stayed active in the local Indian community. This mans children are now a doctor and a lawyer, I wonder why?
Just another story of greatness, lying within the depths of what this great country has to offer.
Grab your dreams and goals! Stay open to the opportunities that you create for yourself. If you are looking for something from the government you already have it…the ability to work hard and create a life you choose too, not one that is handed to you. That is the difference between the government/labor union workers and the independent thinkers and entrepreneurs who really drive this country forward!
BUILD YOUR DREAMS TODAY! (brick by brick!)
9/16/10
How do you build a great relationship?
How was the Great Wall of China built? One brick at a time.
Do you have something that is a HUGE goal? Something that is exciting, marvelous, and larger than your life right now? How are you going to get there? One Action at a time. It is really overused but honestly, all that we have is today; right here, right now. If there is something that you want to build, create, and have in your life, lay one brick down today and make it be laid to perfection.
Do it the absolute best you can. Tomorrow, there will be time to worry about the next one, and the next one, and the next one. Today, do your best to lay that one brick and see what can be built over the course of time.
Who knows, people may be inspired all over the world for your accomplishments and I bet the first thing they will ask is, "How did you do that?" We know the secret...one brick at a time.
Do you have something that is a HUGE goal? Something that is exciting, marvelous, and larger than your life right now? How are you going to get there? One Action at a time. It is really overused but honestly, all that we have is today; right here, right now. If there is something that you want to build, create, and have in your life, lay one brick down today and make it be laid to perfection.
Do it the absolute best you can. Tomorrow, there will be time to worry about the next one, and the next one, and the next one. Today, do your best to lay that one brick and see what can be built over the course of time.
Who knows, people may be inspired all over the world for your accomplishments and I bet the first thing they will ask is, "How did you do that?" We know the secret...one brick at a time.
Relationship Coaching
I love the movie Band of Brothers and think of it often in terms of the psychology that is shared by the type of entrepreneurial spirit we have in this country. For the person who is willing to go out and make a difference, you have to be strong, confident and focused on a vision, mission, and purpose. In order to be successful, that mission, vision and purpose supports the individual and their life goals and it also goes a step further and encompasses those in their inner circle who the care about the most, it carries out further to those that he knows as everyday contacts, and even further to those in the world who have yet to hear their story and be inspired by it. In the end, it is not about the self, but truly about serving others. Because there is another treasure buried even deeper in that process. When you serve other selflessly, you lift them up on your shoulders and help them to understand the secret inside of them, help them become more than who they think they are, and that makes the world a better place for us all.
So when these few people learn this secret of life, we find greatness in them. They bring out the betterment of ourselves which in turn helps us to bring out the best in others. The Servant Leaders will risk their mission, vision and purpose by putting it out there for all, and in the end, regardless of all of the hardships, will live it and be willing to die for it! It is shown in a quote by one of my favorite war heroes from The Band of Brothers, Easy Company, US Army Infantry, WWII.
Richard D. Winters: [real life interview with Winters where he quotes Mike Ranney on how Ranney answered a question his grandson once asked him] I treasure my remark to my grandson who asked, "Grandpa, were you a hero in the war?" Grandpa said, "No... but I served in a company of heroes".
I serve in a company of heroes!
When it comes to a relationship...are you bringing out the best in your mate? Are you bringing out the best in your children? Are you setting an example for them that they would be proud to follow? Make the answer to those questions, "YES!"
So when these few people learn this secret of life, we find greatness in them. They bring out the betterment of ourselves which in turn helps us to bring out the best in others. The Servant Leaders will risk their mission, vision and purpose by putting it out there for all, and in the end, regardless of all of the hardships, will live it and be willing to die for it! It is shown in a quote by one of my favorite war heroes from The Band of Brothers, Easy Company, US Army Infantry, WWII.
Richard D. Winters: [real life interview with Winters where he quotes Mike Ranney on how Ranney answered a question his grandson once asked him] I treasure my remark to my grandson who asked, "Grandpa, were you a hero in the war?" Grandpa said, "No... but I served in a company of heroes".
I serve in a company of heroes!
When it comes to a relationship...are you bringing out the best in your mate? Are you bringing out the best in your children? Are you setting an example for them that they would be proud to follow? Make the answer to those questions, "YES!"
9/14/10
Relationship Coaching
For you men out there...here is what a woman will find attractive! Are you living with honor as you try for a quick pick-up? Are you living with honor when you go into hiding because she is in a heightened emotional state? Are you living with honor when you look in the mirror everyday? A great relationship starts with a honorable relationship with yourself. A woman will always look for certainty in a man and your core values and living honorably will go a long way to attracting the woman of your dreams!
Achievement without personal honor is of no value!
Everyone wants to achieve greatness in life to some level. However, when we achieve something that is not congruent with what we know is true to ourselves, our family, our community, the world…there is little honor in it. Living life with a guilt free conscience, doing what you know to be true and honorable according to your principles is paramount for true achievement and success.
All the best…live with Honor!
Achievement without personal honor is of no value!
Everyone wants to achieve greatness in life to some level. However, when we achieve something that is not congruent with what we know is true to ourselves, our family, our community, the world…there is little honor in it. Living life with a guilt free conscience, doing what you know to be true and honorable according to your principles is paramount for true achievement and success.
All the best…live with Honor!
9/13/10
Relationship Coaching
As man in a relationship it is easy to forget that You are the Master of your Fate and the Commander of Your Soul. It is so critical for the man to be on his purpose in life first in order to be strong, confident and lead effectively. It is on your shoulders to constantly remember and see what it good in your mate, to make the tough decisions, to stand in her need for constant certainty and be questioned on all you do. That needs to be balanced with not working to please her contstantly, or expect her to be more motherly towards you, or expecting her to be more like you by approaching things with logic and reason versus emotionalism.
You, as the man, in the relationship always lead by example, make her your number one woman but not your number one priority in life. Treat her with love and emotional support and always see what is good in her and affirm how she is enough and what she gives is enough. See and embrace her beauty and emotionalism! It is oxygen to a man on his purpose in life! Don't be scared of her femininity...suck it in for it is life!
Have a great week commanding your ship through the seas to reach your next port! May it be exciting, fulfilling and adventurous. To remember that every day at sea is a good day can remind us to see every day as good too!
You, as the man, in the relationship always lead by example, make her your number one woman but not your number one priority in life. Treat her with love and emotional support and always see what is good in her and affirm how she is enough and what she gives is enough. See and embrace her beauty and emotionalism! It is oxygen to a man on his purpose in life! Don't be scared of her femininity...suck it in for it is life!
Have a great week commanding your ship through the seas to reach your next port! May it be exciting, fulfilling and adventurous. To remember that every day at sea is a good day can remind us to see every day as good too!
9/10/10
Relationship Coaching
A woman will love you more for who you are than what you have!
"What we should be concerned about is our character. Our character represents what we truly are, while accolades and achievements are merely byproducts of what others perceive us to be." John Wooden
Character is based on our values and beliefs. How are you going to reveal who you are today with your actions? How you act today will reveal your character. At the end of the day, have you done your best? Can you fall asleep with a smile on your face because you have been the person you want to be?
That is a man with a plan, a man with confidence, that is someone who a woman will stay committed to for the rest of her life!
To your continued success,
James
"What we should be concerned about is our character. Our character represents what we truly are, while accolades and achievements are merely byproducts of what others perceive us to be." John Wooden
Character is based on our values and beliefs. How are you going to reveal who you are today with your actions? How you act today will reveal your character. At the end of the day, have you done your best? Can you fall asleep with a smile on your face because you have been the person you want to be?
That is a man with a plan, a man with confidence, that is someone who a woman will stay committed to for the rest of her life!
To your continued success,
James
9/9/10
Relationship Coaching
When it comes to relationships sometimes what attracts our partner to us the most is the area that we are weakest in. An introvert attracts an extrovert or an organized person attracts a disorganized person. Relationships start to lose energy when the focus is shifted to how the other person is not the same instead of remembering to respect how the differences bring balance.
It takes a strong, centered person to live with a person who it is possible to see all of their weaknesses in. It takes an even stronger person to respect and appreciate them (even when sometimes they are the most frustrating!)
The secret behind passion in a relationship is that opposites attract. Would there be any passion in a relationship where you were married to yourself? AUGH!
The greater the differences, the greater respect for those differences, the greater the polarity and energy in the relationship and the greater the passion!
TO your continued success...
It takes a strong, centered person to live with a person who it is possible to see all of their weaknesses in. It takes an even stronger person to respect and appreciate them (even when sometimes they are the most frustrating!)
The secret behind passion in a relationship is that opposites attract. Would there be any passion in a relationship where you were married to yourself? AUGH!
The greater the differences, the greater respect for those differences, the greater the polarity and energy in the relationship and the greater the passion!
TO your continued success...
9/8/10
Are you feeling Froggy?
Are you Feeling Froggy?
Once there were two frogs freezing to death in Yellowstone National Park. Just as they thought they didn’t have the strength or courage to hop one more time, they came upon two different hot springs. One was so hot it was rolling and boiling over, while the other looked warm and inviting like a steaming hot tub.
The first frog was so cold he jumped and landed right in the boiling water. He was a lucky frog and as soon as he hit the water the geyser erupted, he was thrown into the air end over end, and landed in a pine tree. It was from that vantage point he saw a the piles of warm straw needles underneath him. He hopped down and burrowed in to stay warm for a while. He was a little shaken, a little warmer and had a great story to tell. The other frog decided to slowly lower himself into the calm pool of hot water, getting used to it and relaxing. He was not so lucky. As he relaxed more and more he failed to notice the temperature slowly rising. After about a half hour, he was too relaxed to move, and boiled to death.
As of August 31, 2010, I have officially resigned from my position as a Personal Results Coach with Robbins Research International. It has been 11 very fulfilling years and I have grown immensely. I have shared almost 20,000 sessions with my clients and learned more about psychology, human motivation and creating human change than I ever thought possible.
One of the things that I forgot about was life’s lesson that we are always in one of two places: looking where we want to go and jumping or telling ourselves that we deserve some rest after that scary jump we just had. It is tough not to stay in that killer comfort zone. It is always easier and requires less work to be in the comfort zone rather than marshalling the strength to keep jumping over and over and over again. That can get tiring…even for a frog.
One truth of life is that the only way to feel alive is to jump…a lot. That is the only way that we can ever get stronger, more confident, and create self confidence. The comfort zone will always be there to entice and lull people into complacency. It is easy to forget that frogs are made to jump! That is what they were made to do!
My Team Leader in the Army use to ask us before morning training, “So, do you feel froggy today?” I guess I do! Let’s see who can jump the farthest? Where do you want to go? What do you want to do? What are you too scared to do? What do you fear or procrastinate the most? What is that goal or dream your have given up on? Take that leap of faith! On your mark, get set, JUMP…..
FAST TRACK for SUCCESS Coaching Program is still alive and strong. Do you need help daily in developing new habits and getting some momentum in a specific area of life? For only $299/month you get three, 30-minute coaching sessions and daily interaction to support you in successfully achieving one goal. Intense focus will create results. A Bargain for your SUCCESS! CALL NOW! (919) 792-0085
Once there were two frogs freezing to death in Yellowstone National Park. Just as they thought they didn’t have the strength or courage to hop one more time, they came upon two different hot springs. One was so hot it was rolling and boiling over, while the other looked warm and inviting like a steaming hot tub.
The first frog was so cold he jumped and landed right in the boiling water. He was a lucky frog and as soon as he hit the water the geyser erupted, he was thrown into the air end over end, and landed in a pine tree. It was from that vantage point he saw a the piles of warm straw needles underneath him. He hopped down and burrowed in to stay warm for a while. He was a little shaken, a little warmer and had a great story to tell. The other frog decided to slowly lower himself into the calm pool of hot water, getting used to it and relaxing. He was not so lucky. As he relaxed more and more he failed to notice the temperature slowly rising. After about a half hour, he was too relaxed to move, and boiled to death.
As of August 31, 2010, I have officially resigned from my position as a Personal Results Coach with Robbins Research International. It has been 11 very fulfilling years and I have grown immensely. I have shared almost 20,000 sessions with my clients and learned more about psychology, human motivation and creating human change than I ever thought possible.
One of the things that I forgot about was life’s lesson that we are always in one of two places: looking where we want to go and jumping or telling ourselves that we deserve some rest after that scary jump we just had. It is tough not to stay in that killer comfort zone. It is always easier and requires less work to be in the comfort zone rather than marshalling the strength to keep jumping over and over and over again. That can get tiring…even for a frog.
One truth of life is that the only way to feel alive is to jump…a lot. That is the only way that we can ever get stronger, more confident, and create self confidence. The comfort zone will always be there to entice and lull people into complacency. It is easy to forget that frogs are made to jump! That is what they were made to do!
My Team Leader in the Army use to ask us before morning training, “So, do you feel froggy today?” I guess I do! Let’s see who can jump the farthest? Where do you want to go? What do you want to do? What are you too scared to do? What do you fear or procrastinate the most? What is that goal or dream your have given up on? Take that leap of faith! On your mark, get set, JUMP…..
FAST TRACK for SUCCESS Coaching Program is still alive and strong. Do you need help daily in developing new habits and getting some momentum in a specific area of life? For only $299/month you get three, 30-minute coaching sessions and daily interaction to support you in successfully achieving one goal. Intense focus will create results. A Bargain for your SUCCESS! CALL NOW! (919) 792-0085
Relationship Coaching
If you don't have the relationship that you desire, yet, than you are reading the right blog. Why don't bars work for meeting the love of your life? Let me share a quote with you.
"What we should be concerned about is our character. Our character represents what we truly are, while accolades and achievements are merely byproducts of what others perceive us to be." John Wooden
Character is based on our values and beliefs. At a bar, there is almost as much expectation as alcohol, in her mind and in yours. Between the atmosphere and the alcohol there is too much to overcome to reveal your true self.
If you need help in finding the right partner for you. Call Evolution for Success today. You can have the love and the relationship you desire!
"What we should be concerned about is our character. Our character represents what we truly are, while accolades and achievements are merely byproducts of what others perceive us to be." John Wooden
Character is based on our values and beliefs. At a bar, there is almost as much expectation as alcohol, in her mind and in yours. Between the atmosphere and the alcohol there is too much to overcome to reveal your true self.
If you need help in finding the right partner for you. Call Evolution for Success today. You can have the love and the relationship you desire!
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