Are you in charge of your emotions or are your emotions in charge of you?

by James Murphy
Peak Performance Coach
Master Practitioner: NLP, Time Line
Therapy™ and Hypnosis

When people talk about changing their life they are really talking about changing the quality and intensity of the emotional states that they consistently experience. There are certain emotional states that we are driven towards and certain emotional states that we are driven away from.

The study of emotions is the study or history. Emotions are the cause of war, peace, prosperity, and poverty. Conflicting emotions inside an individual are the core of dis-ease in the body. The key to changing the quality of our emotional states is to understand what the emotion is communicating to us. Emotions give us insight into where we are incongruent in our values, beliefs, and unresolved significant emotional events. The outcome of any coaching or intervention process is to ease emotional conflict within a person and increase wholeness by attaching new meanings to their experiences. That increases choice and wholeness within a person.

There are four main patterns that of how people deal with emotional states that are disempowering. In NLP, these disempowering states are called away from values.

1. Avoidance: we consistently distract ourselves from facing the incongruency through drugs, alcohol, TV, or any other self medicating or procrastinating behavior
2. Disassociation: we have a conscious understanding of the emotion and endure it or else we try to forget that we know it and deny it
3. Competition with others: we compare how our emotional state to others and make ours grow greater than theirs
4. Learn and Grow: Success is learning how to understand what the emotion is communicating to us, clearing up the conflict within, and enjoying a greater level of emotional health, or wholeness within an individual.

The Top 10 Disempowering Emotional Categories
1. Uncomfortable
2. Fear
3. Hurt
4. Anger
5. Frustration
6. Disappointment
7. Guilt/Regret
8. Inadequacy
9. Overwhelm/Overloaded
10. Loneliness

All of these disempowering emotions have a message for us. They are powerful indicators of conflict within our minds which creates dis-ease in the body. The key to having greater levels of positive emotional intensity is to clear up past unresolved significant emotional events, change the meaning that we attach to our experiences and condition in our new states. The next few blog entries will cover these aspects of “how” to have greater levels of emotional health.

Tomorrow’s entry will focus on the Top 10 Disempowering Emotional Categories, identifying what they are communicating to us and strategies to move through them.

The Law of Attraction states that you attract that which you focus on the most with the greatest levels of emotional intensity. If you want to attract more into your life, you need to have greater and greater levels of positive emotional intensity. Check out my Law of Attraction Teleconference on April 5, 2007.

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To our continued success…James